If the mom-to-be isn’t doing well
ZP® - English, 27 February 2019 10:59Laatste update op: 2 August 2019 16:01
Sometimes things aren’t going well with the mom-to-be; for instance, the pregnancy and the imminent delivery can remind her of unpleasant events in the past, with corresponding feelings of sadness, anxiety or gloominess.
Do you recognize this? If so, seek professional help, possibly together with your partner, so he or she understands what you are going through and can support you. Pregnancy and birth are fundamental events that can stir up things and you don’t have to do this on your own!
It is also possible that the mother becomes confused and sometimes even psychotic. This confusion is clearly different from normal doubts and uncertainties. These are thoughts and beliefs that are false and bizarre, but in which the woman fully believes. Hallucinations can also occur: hearing, seeing, feeling or smelling things that aren’t really there. This is a serious disorder, for which the help of the doctor must be called in as soon as possible.
Use of medication prior to the pregnancy for physical or mental complaints can have a major influence on the pregnancy. Always discuss what to do with your doctor or specialist; to continue with this medication or to stop (temporarily). If the latter is decided on, what to do in case of a relapse?
Physical complaints of the mother, such as pregnancy vomiting or pelvic instability, are of a completely different order. These complaints can be so severe that they physically limit you and can also seriously affect your mood. Here too, you should consult with your obstetrician/doctor what is sensible and what is not. If these complaints have such an influence on you and/or your relationship that help is required, then seek someone to talk to, alone or together.
And there are probably people in your surroundings who would like to help you with practical things such as cooking, housekeeping, shopping and looking after an older brother/sister. Take advantage of this!